Chapter 8. Desires

Part II, Chapter 8. DESIRES.

Chapter 8 has 3 sections;

FLOWER.  (8A)

FRUIT.  (8B)

BEAUTY.  (8C)

Introduction to desires.  (8.1)

We have fears that we want to be rid of, so these are very basic wants, but we also have some essential desires ‘built-in’. We think it would be so good to get rid of our fears, ie, for them to be not there at all, but then what would we respect in life? Anything? Maybe not, although I hope I have made clear that it is our giving of TISP to the internal ‘other’ that will help us with our fears, and that takes a bit of thought and work to carry out. In this way, our fears force us to look at our basic requirements for life on earth, and it is life on earth that is teaching us about what we most need to learn, which is, giving TISP = Doing Love. But what about our Desires?

I think of our basic fears as sticks for the donkey to make it move, and our desires as carrots to give it proper direction. This donkey has certainly needed both. But what are these essential desires, our ‘carrots’? What are we really looking for?

To grow bigger.  (8.2)

As I have said before we seem to have a very basic urge to grow bigger. We want to ‘grow up’ to be an adult; to be like our parents, or some other role-model; and we do want to be like God.

We hope that this will bring us more power and control, choice, independence, exploring and the freedom to do so, and expression, which is also a very deep drive, as is explore.

In fact, we want it so much that we will do anything to get the feeling of ‘bigger’; so much so that it’s probably a primary drive. One way we do this is with our minds, because we can. We look out there and judge and compare, which is what the whole of the Sup/Inf Caper is all about. But remember this is the outself that’s doing this, and also that as you’re doing it to someone out there, you’re also doing it to your InSelf as well (Mirror Laws ML), to your own detriment and cost in that the InSelf (the internal ‘other’) will feel ‘smaller’.

This is the disadvantage of having a mind like God’s; we need it for comparison and discrimination, but it’s a two-edged sword, and we can cut ourselves if we use it incorrectly.

Well, then, if we shouldn’t be using our minds this way, how do we grow? Well, we can look at what children need to grow to give us some ideas for our own.

The primary ingredients for children to grow and be happy are TISP, Rest and Play, all of which are very important. In TISP I include teaching children to give it as well as receiving it themselves; as they are receiving TISP, the parents are modelling giving TISP; that’s what it’s all about.

The whole point of being an Adult is the ability to provide all these things for oneself and others and in all Energy departments. This is quite a big ask, and not many of us manage the full Adult. For most of us, physically growing up to ‘adult’ will get us to ‘bigger’, and with any luck we’ll have a bit of control over life as well. Once we are adult size, we have technically finished growing in the physical department and need to turn our attention to the other Energy departments of the Emotional, Mental and Spiritual/Intuitive, where we will have plenty to explore for the rest of our lives if we can access them. It’s a pity that our social ‘world view’ does not really understand them, much less know how to access them.

What is grow?  (8.3)

We grow when we can actually encompass more of life within us, and come to a greater understanding of what life is about, which helps us work with it better.  Life becomes more useful to us and we become more useful to life. As we reject parts of life, we exclude it, we can’t encompass it, and we become afraid/angry. This shrinks us and hence we cannot grow. God grows bigger simply as She encompasses more of Life and Energy within Her.

‘Grow’ is not always ‘out there’ either. Notice that the plant has to get its roots down into the earth and the dark to explore for nutrients, before it can shoot up higher. It always needs plenty of roots ‘down and in’ to support its growth ‘up and out’, as in, the dark is supporting it – we don’t see the roots. We absolutely take them for granted for the growth and stability of the plant. For us, this means that our internal energy departments could provide us with nutrients to feed and support us if we cared to explore them.

We want to grow and know our own ‘bigness’. We think it’s to adult so we might have a bit more control, but our desire is more than that. All life grows, so then it can explore better, so then it can grow some more.

But we also want to Express, and it is the InSelf that wants this expression, ie, our expression must come from within. The most useful metaphor/model for this ‘expression’ is that of a plant growing to flower.

Flowering.  (8A)

The flower model/metaphor.  (8.4)

In general, (because there are exceptions) flowers are….

  • The plant’s potential, realized, ie, made real.
  • Seen by others, and can then be contributed to by others (the flower can then go to the fruit/seed of the plant.)
  • Usually ‘built’ to attract and reward the fertilizing agent, eg, producing nectar which can be sweet that can feed insects or birds. The plant can’t walk around; it has to attract the agent to it.
  • often very attractive on a much ‘plainer’ plant. Think how much we put up with cranky, prickly roses because we want their flowers.

And notice that….  (8.5)

  • The Flower is an essence of the plant, but it’s not the plant. It is not part of the plant’s general growth for support or nutrition. The apple blossom is not the tree (while the apple is different again). The product is not the producer. (We forget this when we confuse the actor/performer/sportsperson with the act/performance/sport.)
  • In general, a plant must grow and feel strong and well fed to be able to divert some of its energy to flower well. Flowering requires extra effort/energy on the part of the plant. (It also takes effort to produce fruit/seed.) if the plant is damaged or stunted, it affects the flowering.
  • The flower is formed by the plant from within itself and takes time to appear, because it takes time to form them – they don’t just ‘pop out’. The flower ‘comes from within’. The plant then takes a rest from flowering. It also does this generally once a year and then builds up its resources before doing it again. Not a bad idea.
  • It’s the flowers that tell us deeper information about the plant; they are the reflection of its DNA hidden deep inside, and they (flowers) tell us what the plant’s ‘family and relations’ are. We know the plant more specifically, ie, its species.
  • The flower is useful to the plant. It is the prelude to fertilization from another plant of the same species, (usually), which leads to the production of fruit/seed which supports life and the continuation of the species.
  • Many flowers produce nectar which is ‘sweet’. This sweetness attracts a pollination vector, amongst others. Notice that the flower is producing the sweetness, it is not taking
  • Flowers give life to ‘the other’ – bees live on the nectar and pollen, as do other insects, birds, etc.
  • The variety of flowers is staggering; so many ways to flower – each one its own beauty.

And we love them; what would life be like without them?

And Notice that most plants like a bit of fertilizer, especially manures/shite, and flower better for it.

Thus, as we Flower, we define ourselves out and express our own ‘essence’ as it were. The crux of this being that we cannot define ourselves out for ourselves unless we are apart from God. The axiom of ‘Know Thyself’ pertains to this business of defining ourselves to ourselves.

Flowering is therefore defined here as the Expression from within; ie, it’s a possibility of the Self, of many possibilities – it does require effort but it doesn’t necessarily look like effort, because life wants (a great Desire) to flower, and there is a real Delight in so doing (Desire and Delight [D&D]). Our Flowering is our Expression from within and as we do so it generates Self-Esteem (SE) and this is something we are really looking for.

What is Self-Esteem (SE)?  (8.6)

We think and talk about Self-Esteem, but don’t really know how to define it, but we want it – lots. It is how we feel ‘bigger’ within ourselves; or how we feel good about ourselves. Some have it and some do not.

We think our SE comes from our outself (conscious) feeling bigger because that’s what we know about, and we strive for that, which is what all the Superiority/Inferiority Caper in the previous section is about, but as I hope I have argued sufficiently, it is not The Answer. It is our InSelf that wants to Flower, and we will grow as we help it to do that, and ‘help’ is the operative here.

Where we build Self-Esteem.  (8.7)

The problem with defining SE lies in where our SE ‘lives’ or is ‘seated’ or ‘built’, ie, it’s ‘home/house’, whether this is in/at the outself or the InSelf.

If it is seated/built only in the outself/conscious, then by definition it is not in/at the InSelf, which means it is not true for the InSelf. This then, is the sort of Pride/Vanity that can ‘go before a fall’ eventually, (because that pride is covering or compensating for its opposite lack internally, by definition). This is the ‘house built upon sand’ and can be labelled False Self-Esteem (FSE).

If it is seated/built in the InSelf/unconscious, it is secure because it is true/correct/’proper’, and hence it is the ‘house built upon rock’ because it is actually true within life. Thus, it is better labelled as True Self-Esteem (TSE). (The truth does feel like a rock, as in, more secure.)

True Self-Esteem (TSE).  (8.8)

So, in fact, what we are really wanting is TSE. We think that we are wanting pride and we tend to label that as SE, but where it is ‘seated’ or it’s source, is crucial. We’ve all met someone who seems to have plenty of self-esteem, but will bite you pretty hard if they think you’re having a go at them; you were needing to ‘walk on eggshells’ and you didn’t, tch, tch; you’ve hurt their feelings, whether you meant to or not. (Their self-esteem is not true, as in, it is a False Self-Esteem. FSE is always insecure; in fact, the insecurity tells you that this is FSE.)

TSE comes from flowering.  (8.9)

TSE comes from Flowering, ie, the Expression of your InSelf or your ‘what is within you’. This means a relationship between outself and InSelf to be able to do this, which requires time and energy from the outself Serving the InSelf in whatever manner. The InSelf needs help from the outself, because the outself is the part of us that can make/manifest/do ‘things’ in the physical world.

The InSelf is not part of the physical world. It isn’t ‘real’. Our big quarrel with life is that if it isn’t ‘real’, how can it have any impact on us? The trouble is, it does – ignore it at your peril. This effort we give to our InSelf uses our energy and time. Plants need energy and time to flower and so do we. The plant diverts energy from its normal growth to the making of the flower. For humans, the effort lies in the need to give Life/Love and time to your internal ‘other’ using your skills/abilities to bring forth this expression from within. We ‘real-ize’ ‘what is within us’ only after we make it real, (which is a bit strange really; it seems as if it should be the other way around, but it isn’t).

TSE is sweet and feels more secure.  (8.10)

Your Flowering is actually useful to Life; it is a service to Life, even if we don’t know how. We all want to Flower and God/Life wants your Flower. This is your personal Light, (it will delight you) and there is really no point in hiding it under a bushel either. You will also feel ‘lighter’ for having flowered; another ‘light’ word.

TSE is hard won by you, and no-one can take it from you. It has meant effort on your part, because you have served Life. You know inside that you’ve done this task, or made this effort. TSE has nothing to do with what anyone else thinks or has; it’s there, and it reminds you that you exist, and that solves the ‘Ghost’ problem. You have ‘seen’/realized your InSelf, and that in itself gives a deep sense of security within Life.

As you Express this InSelf, this ‘what is within you’, so you have given Life to an aspect of your Self. Thus, you will have this ‘what is within you’, because it is now ‘without’ (= outside) you, and you can now see it, it is now manifest. (This is what I consider the quote from Thomas as being about. Thomas also goes on to say that if you can’t get this expression to outside you, it will destroy you, which is also unfortunately true. I suspect this is because you will lack TSE. Thomas is quoting things that Jesus repeated often, and it’s a warning to all of us.) [See also Internet discussions and Novak (2005).]

The other thing about TSE is that it is ‘sweet’; there’s nectar here, which is itself attractive to others.

Sweetness is a huge issue within our society. We want it so much; all pancreas issues are issues about sweetness in our lives. Think about how much we look out there for the things that are ‘sweet’. It’s not just food; love is ‘sweet’, if politicians give us ‘sweet words’, we’ll swallow anything, ditto medicine; we say ‘she’s sweet’ when we think things are OK. But the ‘sweetness’ that we are looking for is from within and it comes with our Flowering; you have produced that ‘sweetness’ yourself, and if you can produce it, you don’t need to rely on anyone or anything else to give it to you.

This Flowering is a lovely feeling; you have done something worthwhile that contributes to Life. We have used ourselves to our own satisfaction. This is the sweetness we are looking for because we do feel ‘fed’ with this one; ‘full-fill-ment’. And we want more, and we can grow in this, ie, explore more and find more sweetness and more ‘fullness’.

Notice also, that your own ‘sweetness’/nectar which has come from within is naturally attractive to others.

Thus, our Flowering gives us Expression, Sweetness, satisfaction, fulfillment, and a feeling of belonging to Life which is a form of security, or a ‘rightness’ to being alive; a ‘right living’. These are quite a few advantages.

Flowering is what God does all the time. She Expresses Her InSelf and manifests from within, and we label that manifestation ‘Life’; all and everything around us in this life on Earth.

To be like God.  (8.11)

Another very deep desire is that we want to be like God, which is also built in. We are a ‘child’ – a ‘drop’ of God. It is natural for the child to want to grow to be like/as the parent. But, in fact, we want to do God. We are not just wanting greater clout here; that is an ‘outself’ translation of ‘bigger’. We don’t really have much idea of what God is actually doing, because our mainstream religions being based on spirit’s ideas don’t know, (other than accusing God of clobbering us if we get it ‘wrong’).

So, what is God doing, that we can be ‘like’?

God creates living things which can themselves give life to living things, human beings included, which is pretty magical. So, how does She do that? By giving Life to Her InSelf. All ‘Life’ (everything that is alive around us, and Earth too) is God’s Flowering; Her Expression of Her inner Self, and hence Her own source of TSE, which makes Her bigger all the time; She Grows.

God Manifests all Life from within Herself; She is making Her Inner Self Real. As She does so, She ‘real-izes’ who She is. She does it all the time, and She loves doing it; it delights Her, and She isn’t going to stop.

From duality to unity.  (8.12)

God is a duality, as are we, but She has worked out how to Merge them and make them One, a Unity, as well as how to use Energy according to its rules. (Energy is mirroring Her InSelf all the time, as it does for us.) If you’re using anything according to its rules, ie, not yours, that means you are submitting to it, ie, you understand it, and can use it as a tool. God is not only entirely and utterly respectful of what Energy tells Her about Herself, as it mirrors/reflects Her InSelf back to Her, She actively uses/works with it (Energy) to Create Life. This is what She has discovered about Energy. She is learning about Herself and Energy and it never stops, as in, there is always more.

Also,

  • She does this by Herself – no other is required; it gives Her great pleasure, and ‘sweetness’. This is just Her and Energy and nothing else, and yet She can give Life to all this! Including partners for Herself.
  • She doesn’t care one bit about what we think about what She creates,
  • She knows, in fact, trusts Energy, and that if She does things with the ‘right’ energy, ie, the ‘right/proper/correct’ motives, it will all work out, although She doesn’t actually know how or when. Nobody else knows either; but it does work out, which is a delight in itself.

So, there’s a paradox here. God IS a duality AND a Unity. And everything else (including an awful lot of confusion generated in trying to explain this) comes out of that fact. She is in partnership with Energy, as the rider is in partnership with the horse. She merges with it and uses what it tells Her about Her Self. But also notice that riding the horse takes effort on the part of the rider; think of all the factors involved in riding in real life.

But, remember, this is what God wants; yes, it is effort but it is Her Desire, and it delights Her and brings Peace of Mind, and these things are the same for us human beings, because we are built the same way. (which I might have said before.) It is also the only undying solace when all else has faded away.

Giving Life gives Her TSE; Life is God’s Flowering. She just ‘IS’, that’s why She says ‘I AM’, which means ‘I exist’, ie, ‘I do this, and it’s amazing, and I love it, (it delights Her) and I grow in the doing’. But, She also ‘rests on the 7th day’, and She really can rest because She has Peace of Mind (POM). She has done what She can, and Energy looks after the rest. That is, She knows how Energy works and She trusts it to work the way it does. If Her motives for what She does are proper and correct, things will work out, eventually. Remember, Time is not an issue off earth.

And that’s what we want too; all of those things. And that is why we have the opportunity/gift/present of Life on Earth to Explore for ourselves and Express, and find out, and Grow into our own little spark of the power to give Life. And She gives us the freedom to do that. Love has to.

We don’t all succeed in this quite yet, and it is not easy, but we get to explore how we can do it for ourselves. No-one else can do this for us.

And that’s what we want. To do God, because that will feel good, and we can rest within ourselves before we do it again.

But, to say it once again, we are already manifesting our own Life from within. Seeing/hearing/feeling/knowing what’s ‘out there’ is the only way we are able to realize who we are ‘inside’. Well, it’s not the only way, because God worked it out without help from anyone else, but it’s certainly easier for us when we have a Life ‘out there’ to use as a mirror; in spite of what we may think about that. But we’re not happy with ours, and our mainstream religions (SBRs) are very little help here; we don’t really understand how important the concept of Serve or giving Life is, or why. We’re not going to learn how to do God if we are afraid of Life, or thinking it must be serving us, or we can exploit it as we please, or insist on nicking off and getting away as fast as possible, or entertaining ourselves to death until we can.

How do we flower?  (8.13)

Creating Life takes Effort/Labour and submission; giving TISP to InSelf is a service to Life; it’s ‘Till and Keep’. The outself has to Serve the InSelf which means directing your energy internally, not out.

To recap, the idea is to …

  • Notice how energy works, and
  • Take responsibility for your own energy, and
  • Merge your 2 selves, which means they must relate on equal terms; they have to ‘know’ each other, and
  • Take some time and quiet to be able to ‘talk to’ inside, and pause to reflect, and
  • Think carefully about what’s required, and what you want, and why; what for? and
  • Focus your intent, and
  • Carry it out, ie, execute it.

Thus, if any of these things are lacking, your energy is not being directed correctly by you for you; it needs to be ‘at your heart’ – the desire will warm your heart. That’s how you can tell. (And that’s why you need to be able to feel/sense with your body so that your ‘rudders’ are working for you.)

If we want to Flower, we have to learn to Serve our InSelf, which is also God, Life and Self (for us). Hence, our Flowering involves God. The partnership between our 2 selves is a partnership with God. So, the ‘child’ of God becomes a partner with God.

So, increasing Flowering on our part leads to increasing partnership with God.

The more we flower, the more we will learn to love life, and trust it more, so we can flower more, etc. and we become more connected or intertwined with Life.

And Life starts to ‘speak/talk’ to us, in a manner that is dependent upon our personal natural tendencies; whether we are auditory, visual, etc. Also, our dreams and intuitions will ‘tell’ us things to help us learn how to live ‘right’ for ourselves. See more below under ‘Fruit’.

Play.  (8.14)

Another thing that children need to do is to be able to play, and particularly using all of their body, not just an emphasis on the visual or the mental, and preferably within the natural world. How much is this possible in a city?

Play is a form of exploration, but we are not doing it for anybody but our own self. We are exploring & enjoying our own abilities, skills or natural inclinations.  It’s also an expression for self, because it is how we find out about ourselves within our world, ie, what’s there, and its effect on us as well as our effect on it.

When we play, there are some key features present, viz.

  • We like doing it; we’re there because we want to be.
  • We are Relaxed.
  • We are not comparing or judging, although we may want to improve or grow our skills. But this knocks a lot of our sports/games out of the ‘real play’ category.
  • There appears to be no time; we are in the present; in the moment.
  • There is no or very little pressure; if there is any, such as games of skill, we’ve invented the rules.

But, real playing for oneself has no ‘doing’ or trying. It can look very much like ‘mucking around’ to no purpose, as in, ‘wasting time’.

I suspect that while we may not necessarily want to work, we all want to play. Play does not exclude Effort. But the operative is that you will want to do the effort to play. So, what is play for you?

And what’s the difference between play and work?

Work is different.  (8.15)

It is generally much more specific. It is or has….

  • A specific aim, and needs a structure or organization to achieve it, whether individually or many.
  • A set of tasks or rules with an outcome
  • Time is money or survival, there is pressure to get it done, eg, fields need to be ploughed or sown in their season
  • Much ‘doing’/execution/carrying it out.
  • May not necessarily use all one’s skills, etc.

Work or Play are not necessarily completely different or mutually exclusive, and we may do one so that we can do the other as well. But we do need to play, and that doesn’t include consuming entertainment/distraction which is produced through another’s creativity/expression, (films or sport), ie, notice that this is a consuming. The exploration for one’s self because you want to (as long as this or its outcome does not hurt another) is a primary factor here.

Rest.  (8.16)

All children need rest to grow, and we are also told that God rested on the 7th day, so I suspect that adults need rest as well.

So, what is rest?

In general, we understand rest in the physical energy department for our bodies, but we don’t understand the importance of rest for our minds, which depends upon the other departments of energy. If we have ‘stuff’ roiling around in our minds, (consciously or unconsciously) we will have not Peace of Mind (POM); our minds cannot be quiet.

The greater the split between outself and InSelf, the greater the internal mental racket/noise, which we consider normal and try to ignore/dismiss/cover up in whatever way we can. But, if the mind cannot be quiet, it’s much harder to hear that still, small voice from within that is the InSelf (=GLS) that includes our Inner Child. In our current electronic society, we can fill our ears and make ourselves deaf with whatever noise we like to listen to, but that takes us even further away from this essential inner child of ours, who is the source of all our creativity – our Flowering, and hence our TSE.

If we have no TSE, we will have no POM, and hence no real rest; we cannot Rest in Peace (RIP). We can tell that RIP is very important because we think that we can have RIP only when we are dead, and many people would like that.

RIP depends on flowering.  (8.17)

Thus, the logic of this UUS is that RIP depends upon your Flowering,

Which depends upon your proper relationship between your 2 internal selves,

Which is dependent upon your ability to heal the split between these 2 selves.

Hence the importance of healing this split, which requires your TISPing of your InSelf, which = ‘Love thy neighbour as thyself’, because the logic of this UUS is that as you TISP your InSelf (= Love thyself), so you will end up ‘Loving your neighbour’ (= the ‘other’) anyway, through the logic of how Energy works, ie, the Mirror Laws. This is what I suspect we are here to learn.

The upshot of this is that the more we are able to actually ‘do like God’, the more we are able to RIP while alive, which might be rather a nice change, really.

Thus and so, as we are built like God (‘made in the image’, or the same DNA as a parent, so to speak), so we want to be like God or our parent who ‘made’ us, ie, gave Life to an ‘other’.

The point is that there are great rewards in doing this; TSE, D&D, RIP, Growth, fulfillment, lasting sweetness, satisfaction and greater trust/security and connection with life, with more of this as you grow. In fact, you will enjoy your life. The other side of this when we don’t/won’t do TISP is, of course, frustration, irritation, fear, anger, anxiety, stress, misery, suffering and general ‘shrinkage’ all round really; the great dissatisfaction with Life that we all know and love so well.

The power to flower.  (8.18)

God uses Energy to Create Life; She uses Energy (which is outside Her) to reflect Her InSelf back to Her, and works with that to Create Us and all Life. This is a very powerful thing. It is a power for the self, not a power over anyone else, and yet it is the key to life, bringing many rewards which ‘feed’ us and help us do more. We can do the same, we’re built the same way; Energy is the same for all of us, ie, it is our ‘ground’, and we want to work out how to do this ‘giving life’ bit and feel good, and that is why we’re here. This is what we are looking for. Simple? Maybe. Easy? Well, it wasn’t for me. But children who have been well-TISPed by their parents seem to do this naturally.

Conclusion to flowering.  (8.19)

We are looking for our own Power to Flower from within. This comes from the deepest part of ourselves because it is in our DNA. It is our Power to Do like God. This is a power for ourselves which needs no other, but does not exclude another. We are our own little spark/drop of God.

If we want to grow and Flower, and get TSE, we need TISP, PLAY and REST. But, really, the ability to relax and play as well as rest is still dependent on TISP – this just gets in the way all the time! This whole book is starting to look like a book on TISP, which it is! How to TISP your inner Self so that you can then give and receive TISP from your neighbour (= the ‘other’) to your heart’s Desire.

Therefore, where and upon what you put your TISP matters to you, and you have a choice, and it is quite true that it’s much nicer if it’s on how to Serve Life/Nature or else no TSE (because of how Energy works). The more we can relate and connect to our InSelf, the happier we can become.

The crux of this is that the InSelf can be our companion/partner in Life, because it is GLS, ie, our little bit of God. We need no other, and since Energy is always mirroring your InSelf you can use your life ‘out there’ to tell you who is inside, and then you can do things with your internal partner, such as, ‘riding the horse’ of Energy to wherever you wish to go.

And that is why you are here. The ‘Reason for Life’, or ‘the Meaning of Life, the Universe and Everything’, etc. The win-win situation for all. You win and so does Life. This is not something that is currently in great evidence at the moment, and it might be nice to see more of it.

Ultimately, this business of ‘doing God’ can appear to be entirely ‘selfish’, and yet you are actually giving Life to ‘the other’ and the benefits to external others will be there as well as for you, but are of no real concern to you except as feedback for you to understand/encompass more and be able to enjoy giving/serving more.

This is how you work with Energy for your own Desire and Delight in the Exploring and Expressing of Life of/for you, and there’s always more. ‘De light will show you the way’.

The Flowering is of the InSelf, but you can get to that by giving Life either directly to the InSelf or to the external other, although if you’re using the external route you need to make sure Desire and Delight are also there, not ‘oughts’ or ‘shoulds’ which tend to make you feel ‘tied up’/bound, and you won’t like that. That’s how you can use these formulae.

This set of equations is true for all, and very useful for noticing missing bits, eg, if you are Serving but not happy or following your heart, and losing energy or getting bored because of that, you need to backtrack and work out where your TISP is actually going and what you are actually doing.

This is how you feed yourself, are happy to give TISP to ‘the other’, and how you ‘fill’ yourself, for your own growth and TSE, Rest and Peace of Mind. There is a great deal of gladness here as well.

But the Flower is the prelude to the Fruit.

Fruit.  (8B)

Introduction.  (8.20)

I am continuing to use the Flower Metaphor, (which is really a continuation of the Plant Metaphor) and for many plants Flowering is the Prelude to Fruit/Seed.

Our Flowering comes from the outself Serving the InSelf (= GLS). It is a manifestation of Life from within. Now that the flower is there it becomes an open invitation, as it were, to input from external others for cross-pollination and fertilization. The flower is the prelude, invitation or vehicle, for input from a physical ‘other’, which then becomes a physical partnership. Notice that both need to have very similar genes to be able to do this. From this point on the process of growing the fruit gets underway, which also takes time and energy from the plant’s normal growth.

The flower goes to fruit metaphor.  (8.21)

  • The Flower is an invitation to the input of another plant of the same species, ie, partnership within the ‘family’, The Flower is generally pollinated by an external vector; so, it is fertilized by the input from a flower of another ‘kindred’ plant; and vice versa. Also, insects live on the nectar and pollen. (There is a tacit warning here about keeping genes within ‘the family’.)
  • The flower then ‘goes inside’ to form seed, which is a partnership with others of ‘like mind’/species. This partnership holds the potential for further possibilities of new forms of this plant from the genetics of two partners (a Merge).
  • Forming the fruit then requires more effort on the part of the plant and time to grow in relative safety hidden within the not yet attractive (hard, bitter tasting and the wrong colour, etc.) growing fruit. The fruit also has to be protected until it is ready.
  • The seed is generally packaged in a format designed to support the initial growth of this new life. The seed may be enclosed in fruit, so that other forms of life will eat it and spread the seeds. The fruit gives life to other forms of life, ie, it gives life to the other. The seed itself also has enough within it to sustain the first root of the plant into the ground.
  • Most plants generate far more seed than is required for the purposes of regeneration or replacement of that plant. The seeds are packages of energy that give life to further versions of the plant, while many animals are able to live on these seeds.
  • Thus, this ‘fruiting’ of the plant gives life to itself and to the other.

Note that both flower and fruit require extra effort/resources from the plant for their formation.

The fruit.  (8.22)

Fruit contains the seeds from the combination of 2 plants with the same sorts of flowers, together with their packaging. The seeds carry the information for new life of the plant, and each one is a possibility arising from one combination out of so many possible combinations. (This can annoy plant growers at times, when they are dealing with plants that won’t ‘breed true’, and you can’t tell what they will do until you grow them.) In this manner the plant promotes more of itself, and also has possibilities for adaptations for different environments and so on. But the packaging of the fruit/seed also feeds other unrelated life and helps them continue, ie. it gives life to other life. Hence, the fruit gives life to itself and to the other. Children are referred to as the ‘fruit’ of the cross-fertilization between 2 people. (They certainly need/use the resources of both parents to bring them up.)

Partners.  (8.23)

So, we have something interesting here about Partners.

The Flowering comes from the Merge/Serve between outself and InSelf, ie, the internal ‘other’. Hence, we as human beings are God’s Flowering of Her relationship between Her 2 internal selves, as is all Life. But Fruit comes from the input/partnership from the external physical ‘other’ of similar ‘genetic’ material. So, the question is, who is God’s external ‘other’? And the answer is, us!?!

We have the same ‘genetic’ material, (‘made in the image’), and God wants partnership to ‘make fruit’ in the physical/manifest world. God wants our input for cross-pollination/fertilization for new life.

This logic comes out of a metaphor that we live with and thoroughly take for granted. But all metaphors are telling us about Energy and how it works – they have to, because they come out of Energy, as do we and everything else; Energy is our ‘ground’.

So, what on earth is this partnership? Where do we get told about this? We do get told that God ‘talks’ to Adam in the Garden of Eden, and there doesn’t seem to be anywhere else that God talks to humans, meaning an actual direct conversation.

Relating to God.  (8.24)

What we are told is that this ‘talking’ does happen in the Garden of Eden; ‘God comes walking… and talks to Adam’.

As we develop our internal relationship, it does feel like coming into the Garden of Eden, which is rather what I suspect we want/yearn for.

We can’t get in while we are afraid of Life. How does anyone connect with something they’re afraid of? That is the big question. The spirit part of ourselves is afraid of Life; it cannot connect with it. (Remember, the word spirit is defined in this UUS as the spirit part of our self, and closely related to our intuition; it is NOT used in this discussion as God or the Universe as ‘spiritual’ people do.)

The Garden of Eden is where we can ‘talk’ to God directly for our self, ie, connected to Life ie, Life can and will talk to us and help us if we are not afraid of it. It has to because it is always reflecting our InSelf.

To return to an example of the concepts of the AO1 and the AO2. (Diagram 8B1). (See also Chapter 1.)

 

EARTH HEAVEN
apart from God a part of God
GARDEN OF EDEN
partner with God

 

Thus and so, as we come into partnership with God, we start to be able to communicate with Her and Life, directly. How you do this for yourself will be unique to you, but it will involve consistently aiming at peace, truth and beauty in your life. (Extraverts find the ‘numinous’ within, and Introverts find the ‘numinous’ without [outside].)  This will start bringing you back into the Garden of Eden, which is where I suspect we actually want to be. It is Heaven on Earth, and what we are looking for.

Life talks to us.  (8.25)

So, what is this ‘partnership’?

Life starts to ‘speak/talk’ to us, in a manner that is dependent upon our natural tendencies for receiving information; whether we are auditory, visual etc. Also, our dreams and intuitions will ‘tell’ us things to help us learn how to live ‘right’ for ourselves. This is Life ‘speaking’ to us, and helping us. Nobody talks about this because others will think they’re nuts/cuckoo, and the trouble is that it is very easy to delude yourself, but it can and does happen, and can be tested and developed as a skill. But it is also true that no-one else needs to know about this anyway; if you use it to be a ‘spiritual’ Big Cheese you’ll lose it.

An example from my own experience is that when I was part of a group learning NLP, the rooms were on a main road with traffic. This included a sewage truck that travelled up to collect the sewage from septic tanks in the hills and then down to dispose of it. Eventually, we noticed that when someone had done a big ‘clearing’ of a fear, the heavy/full truck would rumble by on its way down to dispose of the sewage, and it was funny, and it kept on happening. God/Universe/’whatever’ is not only ‘funny’ but likes puns as well! Very ‘pfunny’, and really rather delightful (that word) and validating and connecting for the person as well. A bit like Life giving you the ‘thumbs up’.

This example may seem very ‘small’, but in fact it feels ‘huge’ to the person concerned to even begin to consider that life may be speaking/talking to them personally. It is terribly easy to dismiss such things as a ‘nothing but’, but this is what the word ‘sacred’ is about. If you do dismiss such things, the natural world cannot ‘talk’ to you, and you cannot feel supported in your endeavours; you cannot grow. Life can and will support you, but not if you’re busy dismissing the way it ‘talks’ to you, ie, your sensing of it. It’s the synchronicity that’s the key, and one of the many important things that Jung was saying; it’s Life reflecting your internal energy back to you. The synchronicity informs you about life setting up a relationship with you.

As you continue to live ‘in line with the Universe’ you will find that Life is always telling you about you personally (it’s serving you), while others are actually telling you about themselves (because of projection). This is quite a change, because we tend to think that it’s the other way around. All very interesting. (More in Goal-Setting.)

Being ‘spoken’ to may be easier to develop if you live in a more natural world than a big city, but I suspect the skill is more dependent on having a good relationship with your InSelf than where you live.

Getting back into the Garden.  (8.26)

We get back to the Garden when we become a normal human being who is part of (one with) the world of Nature and God and loves it all. It is our fear of Life that keeps us out of it.

As we learn to do this, I suspect that few of us have any idea of the kinds of internal powers that can be developed. Writings about the Wicca ‘craft’ or the Toltecs, as well as American Indian abilities in their past can give a hint.

However, (there’s always a ‘however’) we do need to notice that the Garden of Eden is not where we get to do nothing. We are directly involved in maintaining and protecting it.

Father and son; parent and child.  (8.27)

Jesus described the relationship between God and Humans as the relationship between ‘father and son’, so what was he talking about? I mentioned this partnership in Part I, but our society has lost the real meaning of this, especially between human fathers and sons. There has been and still is so much absence of the father; mental and emotional as well as physical. So, what is this partnership of working together on the task of giving and TISPing Life, ie, making Fruit together? There are two things happening here.

The first is that the ‘child’ becomes equal with the parent as it grows up, not the same, but equal in terms of ability to give life. We know this; it’s in front of our noses; what are families doing all the time?

The second is this bit about Energy where the child can become a partner to the parent in terms of working together to ‘give life to the other’. We don’t really have a metaphor for this. This is the bit that we seem to have lost sight of, but it is very important. I see it happening more with women and their daughters than with men and their sons. Inter-gender parent-child relationships may be more problematic in terms of description and classification because of our society’s difficulties with the masculine and the feminine. But the operative here is that parents and their children have the ability to be partners in ‘giving life’. How much do we use/see that?

We also need similar ‘genetics’ for proper fruit to be able to form. If you feel lacking in actual genetic family, this is an encouragement for you to make your own ‘family’ of Like-Minded Others (LMOs).

If we want to Flower, we have to learn to serve our InSelf, which is also God, Life and Self (for us). Hence, our Flowering involves God. The partnership between our two selves is a partnership with God. So, the ‘child’ of God becomes a partner with God.

So, increasing Flowering on our part leads to increasing partnership with God.

The more we Flower, the more we will learn to love life, and trust it more, so we can Flower more, etc. we become more connected or intertwined with Life.

But InSelf = God, Life and Self. Therefore and thus, a better relationship with the InSelf means a better relationship with God and Life, read Nature. This equation is also an indication that you can develop this relationship through God (or whatever feels like that to you), or Nature, or your Self within.

Advantages of flowering.  (8.28)

As you develop your internal relationship with your InSelf, you begin to know yourself; to realize who is there, and you will feel more ‘real’ and be able to be more ‘natural’, true to yourself, and relaxed in your attitude to Life. As you become more connected to your own intrinsic nature within, you will become more intrinsically related to Nature. Let the words tell you.

This is our inheritance, we are part of Nature, and we want to feel connected to that.

Hence, you will feel that you are not alone, because you have discovered/uncovered your InSelf, and you can become a partner with God and the natural world, which will ‘talk’ to you. Where else can you do that? We don’t seem to ‘talk to God’ when we’re in Heaven.

Learning to trust life.  (8.29)

As we flower, we start to come into the Garden of Eden and we begin to trust Life.

So, what are we trusting?

The trust bit is that Life ‘out there’ will always tell you what you need to know about your ‘in here’. Because that’s what Energy does. The Mirror Laws are saying how Energy works. In the meantime, you get to sort out what matters to you and your motives for what you’re wanting and what you want to do. That is your free will, and it’s always yours.

Thus, as we partner God in manifesting Life, so we give ourselves ongoing (‘eternal’?) Life and TSE. And feel connected to Nature/Life, and get to start living in the Garden of Eden, and find Peace of Mind, and are able to Rest, after we have made the Effort to do Serve.

So, with this promise comes the understanding that Serving Life is how we get what we actually want, and that Serving involves effort and the submission to Life/Energy.

As we manipulate, dominate, abuse, force or exploit Life, essentially for money or our ego, we stop life and we stop ourselves. We will ‘wear it’ until we ‘get it’, as the only way for us to find out that it’s much nicer for our own self doing it God’s way, because of how Energy works – its laws. (And remember, God got to work this out too; as in, this is not personal – it is what Energy does.)

The primary consequence of all this is that our motives for whatever we do, ie, why we do it, must be very clear and careful and in line with the correct use of Energy, ie, ethical, ie, for the greater good of all Life, plants, animals, the earth and us; now and in the future (because of ‘Keep’ from ‘Till and Keep’). (And not just ‘nice/noble’ words either; it’s the actions that count; we will ‘wear’ what we do to ‘the other’ because of Mirror Laws, so ‘do as you would be done by’.)

Thus and so, GMO plants do not fit these criteria, ditto nuclear energy, ditto all the things that mess up our planet and poison and kill other life.

As we are afraid of Life, so our motives get bent out of shape, ie, out of line with Energy, and we cannot get what we really want.

The problem with fears is that they always ‘bend’ our motives, so that they (our motives) cannot be straight or ‘true’ or in line with Energy, and therefore we cannot trust the result, or in fact we can trust that things won’t work out, eventually; they will always bite us on the bum – fooh!

Hence, the usefulness of facing our fears of life, which means that spirit gets to stay put on earth, and start to relate to life and the soul. It’s not if, it’s when. Thus, it might be useful to have a belief system that encouraged this and had good tools to help people do so.

Beauty.  (8C)

Beauty … is, I contend, no mere accident to human life, which people can take or leave as they choose, but a positive necessity of life.” William Morris.

Beauty is truth, truth beauty,’ – that is all ye know on earth, and all ye need to know.” John Keats.

Have nothing in your houses that you do not know to be useful, or believe to be beautiful.” William Morris.

One can make no better investment than the cultivation of a taste for the beautiful, for it will bring rainbow hues and enduring joys to the whole life. It will not only greatly increase one’s capacity for happiness, but also one’s efficiency.Orison Swett Marden.

“Those who contemplate the beauty of the earth find reserves of strength that will endure as long as life lasts.” Rachel Carson.

And many people have added simplicity as well. However, simplicity without beauty can look very utilitarian and soul-less.

All the quotes are talking about the importance of beauty as a signpost of truth in your life, as well as the fact that there is a kind of beauty in truth itself which is a kind of ‘bottom line’, so to speak. And strangely enough, I find the truth relaxing. We argue about truth or what is true for people personally, or we argue about what is beautiful – ‘beauty is in the eye of the beholder’, but much of Nature is still beautiful and is still there as a potential solace for the difficulties in our world. Not to mention, it is usually inexpensive, and it is alive, and it is there for the taking. In contrast, bling and glitter are generally expensive and not alive, and much loved by gods.

Dirt, mess and clutter are condemned in Feng Shui as bad energy which they are. They indicate low or poor energy in the environment, which will affect you and your ability to achieve what you are wanting.  This will look and feel like ‘bad luck’ and poverty, and will attract same. It is quite remarkable how much gods (see Part III) think it’s OK to drop their rubbish so that Somebody Else (including Nature) has to put up with it, but they rubbish themselves as they do so, which ‘deadens’ their energy.

It is essentially good for us human beings to not make messes in the first place (poisons and rubbish/waste), and to clean up our environment.

The idea is to Sort and simplify, which means know what you want and where you want to go, which is your clarification of your own truth.

The point is that it is useful to you to look for and aim at the beautiful and the truthful in yourself and your environment because they will then be able to give you support and solace. Looking for truth and beauty will also grow you, which means they help you feel alive. This is true from the personal to the social.

Conclusion to desires.   (8.30)

There are rewards for Life on Earth that make the search and the effort highly worthwhile.

Fruit is the way that new life is generated through the Merge of two separate, but genetically related entities.

The promise of the fruit is that we can be partners with God in generating this new life and making and keeping it ongoing, even if we are not there to see it; our individual Flowering will live on.

It is thus possible for each of us to come to live in our Garden of Eden and talk/speak with God, Life or Nature and work together to keep this new life ongoing and continue to make and grow and learn for ourselves.

The rewards that come with Flowering and Partnership with God are what we humans are searching for in Life, and even then, it’s still a beginning – there’s always more.

We are not meant to ‘Love All’ in terms of spraying ‘Lerv’ all around you to everyone else. As you TISP your InSelf, you will automatically attract to yourself those others of similar ilk/’family’/’familiars’ that you can partner with in Life. This is what Flowering does; then you can Create Fruit together and ‘feed’ yourselves deeply in the process.

The argument within this UUS is that our desire to grow and Flower with its concomitant TSE is so deep that it has to be built-in and is thus ‘calling’ us all the time. In fact, it is a need. These desires are ‘Life’s wish for itself’; they are in our DNA, so to speak. Our needs dovetail into our wants. Nothing satisfies us like TSE.

Conclusion to Part II Wanting.  (8.31)

In part II I have looked at what we as human beings are essentially wanting, as a way to try to understand why we do what we do and what this ‘doing’ does to us.

I began with the ways we try to be ‘bigger’, using the Superiority/Inferiority Caper as the starting point because we do it so much, (and automatically too) and consider that to be what Life is about. My conclusion here was that doing Sup/Inf wasn’t useful to us and we needed to look for another way.

In the Psychology section, I looked at how the Superiority/Inferiority Caper affects us and what it looks like in terms of our psychology; how we label things; how the Mirror Laws work in daily life and how they get described, as well as the fact that we are 2 people internally.

In the Religions section, I looked at what we are taught by our religions/teachings/beliefs about how to cope with all of the above; our mainstream as well as ‘spiritual’ religions/teachings, none of which are terribly helpful, since they are ‘how to escape’ teachings. They also have our two internal people the wrong way around for the ‘little’ and the ‘big’ bit, and are still judging; that word again, so we know there’s a problem.

I then looked at those things that we seem to actively want and these wants fall into two categories. Humans want to get rid of their fears, and also have wants/desires for what feels ‘good’, ie, we want to get rid of the bad and have the good. So, the enquiry has been just what exactly are these and what we do about it?

In the Fears chapter, I looked at the fears that we want to get rid of (the ‘bad’ things), and found that they are needed to teach us how to TISP, ie, they are the sticks. These are the things that make the donkey move.

Hence, we are not going to learn what we want and need to learn for our own happiness without having them.  And finally, I looked at what ‘growing bigger’ actually means, using the natural models/metaphors of children and plants to give us some idea and labels/names for what we are looking for and how to get them and what’s required, and why. I then found some very desirable reasons for being on Earth, and great rewards for the effort; the carrots. These are the things that make the donkey move in the right direction. There is every reason to reach for these carrots; they are very sweet and nourishing.

But where are our teachings?  (8.32)

But, where do we look for these rewards of being alive on Earth, ‘cos we don’t know, and don’t have a teaching about this stuff which is the whole point of this (monumental) diatribe. We don’t understand what we want, or why, or what’s required or how to get to where we would like to go. We don’t understand how important it is to have an inspirational meaning for life, and we don’t know what’s involved in having/getting it or the point of doing so. Nor do we have proper labels/names/words for these concepts which means we have stacks of trouble trying to define and untangle them out, and I think it’s past time for a change. Hence this UUS.

Throughout all of the above, the logic of this inquiry makes sense of so many of the writings and ‘truisms’, instructions and quotations from various sources that echo down the years, that we haven’t understood within our society.

And in the process, the labels/names defined in this UUS give us ways to identify what we are actually doing to ourselves on an individual basis. If something has a properly defined name/label it means that, a. you can work out what you are looking at and handle/manage/tackle it for yourself if you wish, but, b. it also provides a means of communication with another because both of you will be ‘on the same page’ as it were, viz, you’re actually talking about the same thing.

It’s not ‘it’s all a great mystery and you shouldn’t ask about it’.

The real mystery is in what comes out of any Merge which when it happens actually brings in the Holy Ghost; how is it that we have this one particular seed, now, of so many possible seeds; this child with these characteristics out of so many possible combinations from the DNA of just two people.

As for every person’s mystery about who is inside them, they can find out for themselves if they want to, and set up their own relationship with God/Energy and work towards a future they desire. That’s what this UUS is saying, that it can be done, and that it is worth it on all counts. As you integrate your InSelf and choose to being in line with the laws of Energy outlined in this UUS, it is possible to change your future. Mind you, there is always more to explore and express, in that you never really get to the bottom of it.

The other amazing thing(s) is how Energy, a. mirrors everyone all the time and b. sorts itself out, eventually, which it does. On the other hand, it has rules which you can trust and use for your own purposes, but beware; the warnings are there; Respect its Power, and ‘Know Thyself’.

The message here is that it is indeed possible to empower yourself for your own purposes. This is how we learn to ride the Horse of Energy, and come into our own power to give Life to an Other.

In Parts I and II I have looked at our inner/personal psychology, but now I wish to look at the outer world of people and our social systems.